Moving on after a breakup is not easy, unless you are so glad to get out of a
situation that you can�t wait to make changes and move on. It is not easy to declare a breakup absolutely final, even if you were the one
who initiated the breakup. A breakup disrupts your whole life, especially if you and your ex shared many
mutual friends. Then, everything you do and see and all the people you hang out with seem to
remind you of your ex. You may have to make some big changes in your life, or at least get away from your normal routine for a while.
One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when you're ready to move on is your family and friends. If your ex was popular with your
family, you're going to get tired of questions about the situation. You must explain to them that you're moving on, the breakup is final,
and that you don't appreciate constantly being reminded of your ex and the past relationship.
Sometimes this is difficult for family to deal with. They want to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you'll get back
together. You can just explain, "Moving on, the breakup is final, that's that." Eventually, they will come around because they're your
family and they love you. Friends may be harder to deal with.
If you didn't have many mutual friends, then it should be less of a problem. But if the two of you often hung out with the same group
of people, then you being with those friends alone is going to seem strange to everyone for a while. There is also the problem
of your ex wanting to hang out with the friends, too. You might even run into each other as you each attempt to hang out with your
mutual friends. This doesn't mean that it's necessary when you're moving on to also break up with your friends. It's just going to
be more difficult to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over.
As difficult as it seems, when you say, "Moving on, break up is history," you may have to give up some of those friendships. You and
your ex may each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of mutual friends. Just try to maintain good contact and
relationships with those you're closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others. While this can be painful, it's probably
easiest on everyone because they don't have to choose which of you to be loyal to and which to avoid.
Sometimes the "moving on, break up over" period is just too difficult when you're surrounded by mutual friends and so many places to go
together. If possible, go on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people. Take a vacation with a friend who isn't
involved in the situation; maybe a friend of yours who wasn't friends with your ex. This can help you get some perspective. Once you've
declared, "moving on, break up final" then if you can take some time away it can help you a great deal.
Of course, that time away might also make you realize that you don't really want to call it quits with your ex. In that case, you need to
carefully consider how to go about patching things up to get your ex back. If that is your situation, then